Temper Tantrum: Plan Ahead To Eliminate Temper Tantrums

Who hasn't seen a whining and crying child screaming and kicking to get the mom's attention. Any visit at the local grocery store can give you a sample, in case you haven't recently.

A temper tantrum is basically an emotional outburst. Don't be surprised to see this if you have a child, although it is not something that they plan to do deliberately.

It is really a frustration which shows itself in anger. The child will often scream and kick as well as cry. They are intense but don't usually last long. If they happen on a regular basis or last longer, then there is cause for concern.

This is a normal progression for your child in developing his independence. He reacts in frustration sometimes as he plays with a new toy or is working to be more independent.

For example, he may get annoyed with himself when he is learning to dress himself and can't seem to get the clothes item on just the way he wants to. If he is tired or because he is feeling a little stressed, he may act out with a tantrum. The chance of this occurring will increase depending on the age of the child and his mental and emotional stability.

Most professionals will suggest to just ignore when it happens and it will stop quickly. If you are in a public area it is sometimes better to remove the child from the area and take him to a quieter location since this might have been one thing to have triggered the tantrum in the first place.

Take note when and where this is happening if this seems to becoming a habit with your child. As your child gets a little older, you will be able to give the child a time out in order to calm down and reinforce what is acceptable behavior.

These are very common in children between the ages of one and four and could happen once or more each week. Children do test for boundaries, so it is important that you are consistent when dealing with this issue.

The child is having the temper outburst because he wants his own way. It is not okay to give in to a child's demands just because he is throwing a fit. If you give in often enough, you will be seeing temper tantrums more often at your house.

The better action is to make a stronger effort to avoid them and keep them from happening in the first place. Maintain a fertile environment for positive attention for your child. Compliment them when they are well behaved and being good.

Be firm when you need to be. Help your child to grow to be more independent each day by giving him choices in the smaller decisions as much as possible. Try to distract and redirect the activity as you see him becoming stressed. He can try again later.

Include some routines in the day. Children love traditions and structure. It cuts down on the boredom and they are more patient knowing they have something to look forward to doing a fun activity soon.


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