Repair Our Relationship: Top 10 Stumbling Blocks for Couples and How to Fix these Problems.
This is an interesting study. Dr. Olson at university of Minnesota conducted a national survey of 21,501 married couples from newlyweds to retired couples to identify the top 10 common marital issues. Here is the result.
Interestingly, the result was not obtained from only unhappy couples. It was obtained from both happy and unhappy couples. Dr. Olson said, "it is striking that a high percentage of both happy and unhappy coupe have these problems." This indicates that many married couples experience common stumblling blocks in their relationship. Dr. Gottman, who is an internationally known as a marriage therapist, said the same things that problems are not the problem the couples are experiencing, but how to deal with them.
In our practice, we usually focus on interactions between couples, and help them improve their communication and negotiation skills. We feel that many couples simply do not have skill sets to overcome their difficulties. Once they learned new skills and apply them to their relationship, their relationship dramatically improves. Even if you feel that it is impossible to fix your marriage, it is actually possible to do so with the new skill.