The secrets of successful parenting are Structure, Consistency, and Predictability.
They are not mysteries, but simple. It is easy to say, but difficult to do.
Why are structure, consistency, and predictability so important? It is because they are basic needs of human nature.
We all want to have structure and want to live in an organized world. We may say that we want freedom but, in fact, we want freedom within a structured world. Without structure, our world becomes very chaotic.
With structure, we feel safe and protected. We can self-regulate with greater needs.
Consistency ties with routines. Scheduled lives provide us predictability. Predictability is important because we can behave based on what will happen next.
So structure, consistency, and predictability are important keys for children to live in this world.
We can incorporate these ideas in parenting.
A 2-year-old can bring a spoon and plate to the sink. That is a start for children to learn about responsibilities and chores. Each time your 2-year-old brings a spoon and plate to the sink, give them a lot of compliments. They will help you more and it will boost their self-esteem.
It becomes part of their supper routines. You can create a chain of routines like this. For example, prepare supper together, eat supper together, clean the table together, brush teeth, family relax time, and bed time routines.
Whenever your children help you clean, please do not be picky about cleanliness. You may have to redo the cleaning, but it is Okay.