Painful Intercourse: Sex and Marriage

Painful intercourse is not something you always hear about. However, it is a medical condition. If you are experiencing this condition, your family physicians will be able to provide information and treatment for this condition. Please do not worry alone.

There is nothing worse than painful intercourse, especially when you are involved in a marriage because it can affect more than just physical intimacy issues. If you are not someone who has had this problem, you really will not be able to understand it fully.

Some might think that it is even nothing more than a cop-out that the person is simply trying to find an excuse not to have sexual relations with their partner.

The fact of the matter is, this is a real condition and medical science is still trying to find ways to help improve the situation for the many people that it affects.

The technical name for painful intercourse is Dyspareunia. According to DSM-IV, Dyspareunia is "recurrent or persistent genital pain associated with sexual intercourse in either a male or female." Now, while just about all women will experience painful intercourse at some point in their lives, Dyspareunia is a condition where this pain is persistent in either a male or a female.

It never goes away. In fact, it can actually get worse over the years and sometimes it can get dramatically worse after childbirth.

The good thing is that you can now know that this is not just something that is in your head, as many women have been told in the past. It is a real condition that can be caused by a wide variety of problems.

Sometimes, the exact cause of the condition is not able to be determined. Other times it is found that Vaginusmus (involuntary muscle spasms), scars from past surgeries or conditions such as Uterine Fibroids,Endometriosis, Hemorrhoids and ovarian cysts can cause the problem.

Also, it is important to know that the pain is nothing more than pain. While it might hurt a great deal, this condition is not life threatening, even though the pain might make it feel that way at times.

Of course, you still want to make sure that you are trying to improve this situation for yourself. Now that you know a little more about this condition and what may cause it, you are probably interested in what can be done about it.

While there is no cure now, there are things that can be done such as estrogen therapy, sex therapy and desensitization therapy. It is important that you are approaching the treatments together as a couple. You might be in need of marriage counseling in order to make sure that the foundation of your marriage is not shaken.

The key is to realize that while you are not alone, there is hope. Your exact situation is different. First step is to consult with your physician about your experience of this condition. Make sure that you are getting all of the treatment and support that you possibly can.

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