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Marriage problem advice for newlywed Couples. How to avoid marital conflicts and save your marriage.
In his book, "Marriages & Families," Dr. Olson states the first year or two of marriage are the most difficult time. Many couples seems to need to adjust to a new life with their partner, and marriage is a more difficult transition than most couples expected, "often because couples expect marriage to be easy and to be similar to what they have experienced with each other previously."
A study of newlyweds by Arond and Pauker which used 455 newlyweds and 75 couples who had been married for a few years to look back on their first year of marriage. The results were as follows:
The couples seems to carry love, fantasies, and myths into their marriage life in the hope that their partner will change after they got married.
Dr. Olson said, "Unfortunately, marriage neither changes people nor makes it easier for others to change them. In fact, marriage often magnifies undesirable traits. A person who is sloppy before marriage will be sloppy after marriage --- but the sloppiness will become more apparent in the closeness of marriage."
He cited the five marriage problem advice, created by Arond and Pauker, to newlywed couples to make their transition to marriage easier.