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Marital conflicts are not something we can avoid. We all have experienced it. Research shows that both happily married couples and unhappily married couple experience arguments and marital problems. The difference between them is how to handle them.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. However, since marriage partners connect on such a deep level, marriages are more susceptible to problems. While some partners prefer to surrender to their conflicts and separate, many people decide that it is better to work through their marital conflicts and come to a resolution.
Here are the tips for resolving marital conflicts.
When you start discussing an issue, it is important to lose the attitudes and realize that you're both working to resolve the same problem. Once you remember that you're working toward the same goal, you will be less likely to have a bad attitude.
And keep in mind that pouting and throwing temper tantrums to get your way in your marriage will not solve anything. This is not real problem solving, instead it is manipulation.
However, if you fail to communicate your feelings and concerns on a regular basis, your emotions will be constantly building and eventually come to a boiling point when you least expect it.
This allows you both to be able to collect your thoughts and actually have a conversation instead of having a yelling match.
If you don't need to calm down but your partner does, try to avoid forcing them to talk to you immediately. When you pressure someone in an emotionally charged situation, the outcome is rarely positive.
When you start a discussion, you should both verbally acknowledge that you aren't going to criticize each other's weaknesses. When you focus on teamwork, you will avoid the tug of war that many couples face during arguments.
Remember that it is much easier to work together and resolve a problem.