Being the parent of a child who was diagnosed with ADHD can be very difficult to say the least. Most parents feel defeated because of their children's on-going behavioral problems. Understanding ADHD and their brain functioning help them manage their children's behavior more effectively.

There is a great deal you can do to help your child and to teach yourself how to cope as well. The object is to better understand your child and help them to stay focused and calm so that they can channel their energy towards the things that they need to do.

The main goal of doctors is to help the child stay focused and calm so that he or she can pay attention and/or avoid unnecessary anger outbursts in school and at home.

Children with ADHD have trouble sitting still and focusing on what they are supposed to be doing. Many times they can get aggravated which leads to abnormal outbursts of anger and parents do not know how to deal with all of it. ADHD is an impairment in his/her frontal lobe in his/her brain where is responsible for organizing thoughts and planning one's actions for the future. The children with ADHD (and of course, adults with ADHD) have difficulties in these areas due to the impairment.

You may be telling them the same things over and over such as doing homework after school, and picking up after self. For those who do not have the impairment, these tasks are easy to remember. If they were told once or twice, they will easily be  able to perform the tasks. However, the children with ADHD have a difficult time retaining the information for the future use.

The children with ADHD may start an argument with you. You may feel that there are no way to win the battle because your child is so argumentative. This is also the  symptoms of ADHD due to the impairments. Once the arguments started, children with ADHD have a difficult time stopping the argument and thinking logically.

You as a parent may be frustrated and may be started thinking that your child may be doing this intentionally.

Why cannot my child learn? Is he doing this to me intentionally?

That is where family counseling can come in handy. This helps the rest of the family learn to deal with certain situations which can help to keep things much calmer in the home.

The last thing you want to do is get angry about the situation as your child doesn't understand why they are acting the way they are.

You need to be positive and supportive and help them stay focused and on track. Children that suffer with ADHD are very eager to please their parents, siblings and even teachers but they don't know how to keep on track as they can get easily distracted.

They usually get more criticisms than praises because of their negative behavior. This can be very frustrating for the child as well as the parent. It will definitely affect their self-esteem. Some of the children with ADHD tend to develop depression , anxiety, and OCD because they do know how to change their behavior, and they are very aware of the negative feedback from their parents, teachers, and peers.

As a parent you have to be willing to let the little things go. Like the old saying goes, "Choose your battles carefully." Help your child stay focused and work on just one task at a time.

Believe in your child as your child needs your confidence. This is where counseling can help as it teaches parents to show their child that they believe in them and that they can work through everything together.

You need to also make sure that you are taking care of yourself first. If you are worn out and tired then you will not react properly when a situation arises with your child. Your child needs to be at your best so that you can help them to make it through the day. Learn when to walk away for a minute to take a break. You need to be able to get away from the situation so that you do not overreact. It helps you to keep things in perspective.

Children with ADHD do well with set routines. It is comforting to them to count on that schedule so that they know what to expect and when to expect it. It can also help to use timers or clocks to set limits on various projects. Be sure to allow your child some time to unwind after school so that he or she doesn't feel overwhelmed. Counseling is for everyone in the family so be sure to utilize this method of therapy when you can.

Need counseling for your children with ADHD and/or for you and your family? Please contact us.

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