The Challenges of an ADD Adult Marriage are not openly discussed. You may not associate your spouse's behavior with ADHD, and are wondering "why my spouse behaves the ways s/he does." Without understanding of ADD/ADHD conditions, you may end up with constant bickering and arguments. It is time to change...
As it is, marriages that do not have either person suffering from any mental, emotional or physical problems go through rough times and have a hard time making things work. Throw in a challenge such as ADD/ADHD, and the marital issues can become bigger.
When you do not know what to expect, how to understand and how to get through some troubles, the marriage could very well fall apart. Obviously that is not something that you want to happen.
So, it is important to make sure that you are learning as much as possible, especially about ADD adult marriage.
The non-ADHD adult may sometimes feel as though he or she is not being respected or is not as important as he or she should be. This is generally because the spouse with ADHD can be very forgetful and have a mind that can be very scattered at times.
It is important to understand that it is not that the ADHD spouse does not care or does not take an interest in the things that are important to you, but that he or she simply is displaying signs of their condition.
Sometimes you will have to redirect them to get them back on track. This in itself can make the non-ADHD spouse feel as though they now have an extra child. Resentment can often build and that is not a good thing.
One of the best things you can do, as the non-ADD spouse is to learn as much about the condition and how it affects not just marriages, but the person who is diagnosed with ADHD. Believe it or not, having the symptoms of ADHD is something that the person does recognize. Dealing with the symptoms can be irritating, upsetting and embarrassing for them.
They are not doing anything that they would do on purpose to hurt you. They would like to get control over things just as much as you would like for them to.
Another thing to do, if you haven't already, is to sit down with your spouse with ADHD and discuss possible treatment options. So many people have been led to believe that treatment for ADHD is just something for kids so they can sit still in school.
This is hardly the case. Between medication, therapy and the help of loved ones, an adult with ADHD can begin to take control of their life and be able to live life in the best way possible.
The important things in ADD adult marriage are to be patient, be open minded, and try different things. Most importantly, you are going to have to
learn to be a little more patient and understanding. This goes for both the spouse with ADHD and the non-ADHD spouse.
Try looking at the situation from the other person's shoes and you will gain a little more respect for the situation.
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